Ultimate Guide to DEI in Your Wedding Business

DEI–diversity, equity and inclusion–has been a huge topic of conversation over the last few years, and for good reason. The largest and most diverse group of people ever are getting married right now, and as a wedding business owner, this gives you so many new audiences to tap into. But, before you start advertising and marketing to those new audiences, it’s important to take a step back and think about how the conversations surrounding DEI can apply to your business.

DEI encompasses a lot of societal and systemic issues, and diving into these topics can be overwhelming, especially if you’re doing the work on your own. But, in order to grow your business–and grow as a business owner and person–it’s important to take these first steps. 

Read on to learn more about DEI and how you can use tactics derived from it to create a space where current and future clients can feel safe, seen and respected. 

What is DEI?

Before we dive into how to incorporate DEI initiatives into your business, we need to go over what DEI actually is.

DEI is the practice of continually confronting and unlearning unconscious biases (more on these later) in order to create a space where people from different backgrounds and social positions can come together and feel safe. Many businesses–large and small– are implementing DEI initiatives into their overarching operations to ensure that they are intentionally broadening their view to champion more voices.

What’s the difference between diversity, equity and inclusion?

Each arm of DEI covers a different section of these larger conversations, and it’s important to fully understand each component of it individually.

• Diversity – The presence of differences among people, experiences, and perspectives regarding identity, including race, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, dis/ability (differently-abled), socio-economics, political affiliation and more.
• Equity – The concept of being fair and impartial by meeting people and perspectives where they are to ensure they can thrive regardless of experiences or social position.
• Inclusion – The idea that all people feel as though they belong and are respected in the space they’re occupying.

These topics come together to create a holistic net that protects and advocates for underrepresented communities in order to help everyone thrive and succeed. 

Why is DEI important in the wedding industry?

The wedding industry is huge and multifaceted, but a lot of what we see in the media features luxury weddings with young, able-bodied (cis-gendered) men and women who host people from primarily their community. And while these weddings are certainly beautiful affairs, there’s often times not much representation of couples from underrepresented communities. This contributes to the idea that weddings can only look one way and everything else is an “alternative”. Additionally, it may make both couples and pros from underrepresented communities feel left out or unwelcome in the industry. Even though there has been a shift towards showcasing incredible weddings from different communities, there’s still a long way to go.

And today’s couples are noticing and actively challenging the current state of weddings because they’re passionate about inclusivity, allyship and representation. They’re so passionate, in fact, that a lot of couples go out of their way to support brands and people who align with their beliefs. Additionally, they’re adding personalized elements to their weddings that accommodate the needs of everyone in attendance. From including diet-compliant foods to their reception and ensuring their venue is accessible to adding cultural or religious elements to their ceremonies, this trend towards extra consideration is on the rise.

The work starts with you

No matter what your background, it’s important to implement diversity, equity and inclusion initiatives into your wedding business. Not only will it make your services objectively better, but it will also open you up to new audiences looking for pros who can accommodate their needs.

But, before this can happen for your business, you need to put in the work. The first step to incorporating DEI into your business is to acknowledge the fact that everyone has certain advantages or disadvantages that affect how society treats them. The next step is to understand the unconscious biases that you have and how they may affect your service offerings. 

Unconscious biases are stereotypes about individuals or certain groups that form without you even being aware of them. For example, if someone cuts you off in traffic, it’s likely you’ll assume that they are always a reckless driver, which can lead to you unconsciously thinking that they are a bad person because of it. 

We all have our own set of unconscious biases, and though they are deeply ingrained, they can be unlearned. A great place to start is Project Implicit, a Harvard-run series of assessments that cover a wide range of topics geared towards uncovering biases. They’re incredibly eye-opening and can give you a foundation to start your unlearning process.

Another way to unlearn your unconscious biases is to examine the thoughts behind your actions and choices. Continuously ask yourself questions like:

• Why do I think this way?
• What experiences have led to me feeling this way?
• How can I change my perspective?

Learning about DE&I is an ongoing process that will involve amazing realizations and uncomfortable truths but you and your wedding business will grow because of the work you’re putting in now.

5 immediate action items to use when incorporating DEI into your wedding business

Use more inclusive language in your marketing

It’s important to be as inclusive as possible when you’re writing, speaking and thinking about your couples. You can start by doing things like never assuming someone’s pronouns, and avoiding words that are gendered or have origins within underrepresented communities. Here are some good rules of thumb:

Avoid words like:

• Bride
• Groom
• Minority
• Elderly
• Blue Collar
• Housekeeping
• Powwow
• Tribe
• Spirit Animal

Instead, use words like:

• Couples
• Partners
• Underrepresented
• Senior
• Lower-income

This is by no means a comprehensive list of words and phrases to avoid and use, so be sure to continue refining these lists as you interact with new clients. Additionally, if you’re unsure about what language to use, listen to how a specific group of people refers to themselves or simply ask a member of that community. That way, you’ll have the best information possible. 

Pro Tip: As you’re learning how to use language more inclusively, it’s important to also implement those learnings into your advertising and marketing materials and contracts. Read through our reasons why it’s important to include diversity in marketing so you can get started. 

Re-evaluate who your ideal client is

Even though you likely have a clear picture of who your ideal client is, it’s important to think about all of the other groups of people that could also fit into that picture if you view it from a different perspective. So, go back to the drawing board and think about the broad categories of people you want to serve. Then, take a step back and look for any gaps in representation. 

Connect with diverse pros in your area

Connecting with like pros is the best way to build a community. But, it’s important to build one that can bring different perspectives to the table. So, go out of your way to network with pros from a variety of backgrounds who provide wedding services to different types of people from you. Doing that will expose you to so many different experiences and broaden your horizons.

Pro Tip: As you’re growing your network, it’s also a good idea to go back to your already established community of pros and review their preferred vendor lists to make sure it includes diverse pros. If it needs some work, feel free to introduce them to your new connections so they can jumpstart their DEI process as well.

Constantly practice introspection 

Again, becoming more inclusive and equitable to a more diverse audience begins with you. As you’re signing on more clients and growing your business, be sure to check in with yourself to make sure that you’re continuously confronting your biases so you can be the best partner to your clients.

Pro Tip: Practicing introspection will inevitably make you and your brand more authentic to your prospective clients, but that’s not all you can do to boost your brand authenticity. Read through three more ways to increase brand authenticity so you can strengthen your relationship with your audience.

Be open to feedback and continued learning

The key to growing your business is to never stop learning. And on top of the business education that you’re likely investing in, be sure to invest in interpersonal and emotional education as well. So, read books written by authors who are different from you, talk to pros and couples from other communities and reach out to past clients to get feedback on areas where your services could expand to be more accommodating. You’ll be surprised at how much room there is for you to learn and grow.

Pro Tip: As you’re learning more about DEI, you can pass along this knowledge to your clients. Read some of the ways you can help your couples be allies throughout their wedding-planning process so you can spread the wealth.

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